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Spouse, This Absurd Army Wife Life By Rachel Showman
11 Sep 2013
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Spouse.  I’m a spouse.  In fact, I’m Captain Nathan Showman’s wife.  That’s who I am within military circles, classified by my husband’s name and rank.  Well $&%@# that. 

It’s not because I’m not proud, because I am.  It’s not because the title doesn’t fit, because it does.  It’s just not who I am.  As honorable as my husband’s career may be, I am not defined by what he does.  I am Rae, a Kentucky sass, a lawyer, a writer, a sister, a daughter, and, of course, a dog owner.

My soldier and I have lasted through 27 months of deployment, five stateside moves and one ruined pair of pink shoes.  Sure, when we were dating he gave me a gun instead of a ring, but I still married him.  I certainly have a lot to master about this lifestyle, but I have begun to learn how to handle the deployments, the PTSD, the moves, the federal class system and the loss of both career and direction.  Sure, I’ve made more mistakes than I should admit, but I’ve made mistakes others should not have to repeat.

This is not a sentimental love story nor is it a war zone dissertation, although my story begins with both.   This is an inside look at an invisible community and it’s intended as a tool for parents, girlfriends and the civilian population.  I speak from my experiences, from my own perspective without agenda, propaganda or politics.  And, if I tell it with some cheekiness, well, that’s just unavoidable.  I am a proud army spouse, just don’t call me “Spouse.”

Thanks to the Kentucky Foundation for Women, I have had the opportunity to finish my non-fiction manuscript in 2013 and hope to share it through publication with the civilian community in 2014.

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The artist or arts organization telling this story was supported in part by a grant from the Kentucky Foundation for Women. KFW is based on the belief that when women and girls advance, so does Kentucky. For more information about the foundation and the social change artmaking being done by the individuals and organizations it supports, visit www.kfw.org." 

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Non-Fiction Challenges Community Culture Empowerment Gender Rural-Urban Women Books/Writing Southeast Writer army army_wife military_wife
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